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PROFESSIONAL PERSONAL DANCE: STEP 3

3/20/2016

 
By Roxanne Donovan - Wellness
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Welcome to the third post in WellAcademic’s four-part series on ways to improve an out-of-sync professional-personal dance—that interplay between the oftentimes competing demands of work and life. The first step identified the problem, and the second step differentiated the professional from the personal. This step is all about implementing efficiencies at home and at work that make life easier. It requires learning two half-steps.
 
First half-step: Stop multitasking; start monotasking
Many of us believe we are fantastic multitaskers. Unlike mere mortals, we superwomen can simultaneously watch House of Cards and talk on the phone or continuously switch between writing a paper and checking email. Unfortunately, all manner of psychological research suggests we are wrong, wrong, wrong. We just think we’re doing all these things well but are actually slowing down our processing and, thus, our efficiency, particularly if one of the tasks is challenging. Moreover, we won’t accurately remember what we saw, heard, wrote, or read – making our life one big inefficient multitasking blur.
 
Even when we are not physically doing multiple things, we are busy multitasking mentally. You know you do this if you regularly can’t recall
  • The show you were watching after briefly changing the channel
  • Whether you’ve already conditioned your hair (and you’re still in the shower)
  • Why in the world you just walked into the kitchen/study/bedroom
 
If you see yourself in the examples above, you are not alone. Many of us are caught in the multitasking shuffle, shortchanging our work AND our connections to others. The good news is change is possible. It just requires insight into when and in what ways you are more likely to fall into the multitasking trap and an intention to default to monotasking—a fancy way of saying doing one thing at a time.
 
Below are strategies for dealing with some typical multitasking challenges.
 
Shut off technology
The draw of technology, whether it is internet shopping, social media, texts, or emails, is an efficiency killer. Planning to limit these distractions can be helpful when you want to monotask. 
  • Close your browser and email to stay on task – you can even lock your browser for a specified period of time using an app such as Freedom.
  • Set your phone to “Do Not Disturb.” I set my phone to ring when I receive two calls from the same person within 3 minutes. This eases my fear that I might miss something important.
  • Schedule your FB, Instagram, Twitter, and other social media time. That way you won’t feel guilty or frustrated when you do these activities. Just be sure to start and stop the activities as planned.
 
Limit interpersonal interactions
  • Put a sign on your door (if you have one) that you can’t be disturbed until X:XX time.
  • If you have kids, let them know when you will be working and which adult they need to go to INSTEAD OF YOU if the need arises.
  • Put on noise-cancelling earphones to minimize being pulled into things outside the task at hand. Bonus: the earphones give others a big hint that you’re working on something important.
  • Schedule focused interpersonal time so your loved ones don’t feel deprived and you don’t feel unavailable. During this time, give your loved ones complete and total attention. For example, when I get home I put the phone and mail away and spend 15 minutes checking in with my kids. I also do cuddle-time each night which gives me individual time with each child to listen to whatever they want to talk about.  
 
Second half-step: Planning is your friend 
Next to multitasking, lack of planning is a main efficiency killer. How can you be efficient if you don’t have any idea what you should be doing and when? The answer is you can’t.
 
Additionally, and I really hate to say this, you need to plan your personal as well as your professional activities.
 
If you are a parent and/or have a partner, be especially careful here. We have a tendency to plan for our kids’ and partner’s activities, and try to fit in our own priorities when we have “extra time”…and let’s be honest, there is never any extra time. Keep in mind that the massage you’ve been desperate to get, the doctor’s visit you need to schedule, and the watch battery that needs replacing are just as important to YOU as the report you need to finish for your supervisor, the new sneakers you need to get for your kid, and the dinner party you need to attend for your partner.
 
This level of planning requires a to-do list that has separate sections for your professional and personal lives. I recommend creating your plans at the beginning of the week—Sunday evenings work best in my house. Then, you can reference the plans each morning and check off what you’ve completed each evening.
 
Although my partner loves to put his to-do’s on little yellow pads that he leaves in various places around our house, his car, and his office, I use Wunderlist to create my lists and love it. I have also heard great things about todoist and Trello. What I like most about these apps is that you can access them from any device, so totally losing you info is not possible. Hooray for technology!
 
What to do next? 
That’s easy – make a plan, follow the plan, and repeat.
 
Okay, so maybe it isn’t so easy. In fact, you may have tried planning in the past only to give up after a few weeks/days/hours. I completely understand. I too struggle with planning, because I naturally gravitate toward spontaneity (or at least that is what I tell my partner). What I have learned—and relearn repeatedly when I “forget”—is that my life is an exhausting labyrinth of deadlines, expectations, and challenges, which can be nothing short of overwhelming if I don’t have a plan for each week broken down by day. If your life is similar, I invite you to get and stay on the plan bandwagon. 

Some final words about how to create successful and sustainable plans.
  • Overestimate the time it takes to complete novel activities. If I think something will take an hour but have no evidence of this, I will schedule it for 3. I know it seems like overkill, but I am a recovering optimist when it comes to how long tasks will take. If you are too, be sure to pad, pad, pad.    
  • Include lots of breaks. Based on experience, I schedule 10-minute breaks every 50 minutes. That may be longer or shorter than what works for you, so experiment a little with how long you can focus on something before getting antsy.
  • Build in flexibility. For example, keep several hours free on Friday to serve as a catch-all for things you weren’t able to do during the week. At worst, you will have some free time to play with before the weekend.
 
Upcoming post
Next month’s post focuses on the final step in the professional-personal dance—ritualizing health sustaining practices. As a psychologist, I hold great affection for this step and encourage you to check it out around April 20th.

In peace and solidarity,

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